Family is the foundation 
of all stable societies.

The role of the family in society is extremely important as it is the basis, the foundation, the support of all stable societies. In the process of evolution and progress, a social unit made of parents and children is very important for a sound development of communities and countries. Whenever a family excels in the cultivation of high spiritual qualities and does not allow itself to be contaminated by anti-social values, it plays a very relevant role in the improvement of the community. Parents have a social responsibility for the upbringing of their children, so that they can restrain or change detrimental tendencies of their offspring which are revealed early in life, as well as to encourage and develop their favorable inclinations.

Family cohesion.

Just as the force of cohesion keeps together the component cells of bodies in their utilitarian phase, a family also needs the force of cohesion to interconnect themselves like the cells of a whole, and to help form a homogeneous, progressive, peaceful society intent on the development of the most meaningful virtues. This force of cohesion derives from high affinitive feelings, noble aspirations, solidarity in accomplishments aiming at perfection, and disindividualization of efforts made towards a common goal. The greater the number of familial nuclei engaged in the development of this force of cohesion, the higher the environmental indexes of morality and honesty. The behaviour of a community, which reflects the condition of the majority of its members, is a measure of the average level of improvement of a people. It reveals its productive and accomplishing capacity, both materially and spiritually.

Communities, which nations are made of, will be great and respected as long as the foundations of their moral structure, represented by the spiritual links connecting families, are strong enough to repel the evil currents of corruption, unbridled sensuality, self-worship and immorality. Family is a nucleus where their components can exercise the virtues of affection, tolerance, loyalty, self-denial, abnegation, faithfulness, sacrifice, respect and community of feelings. As a corollary, the home is a school of spiritual improvement and a field for psychic development.

Relationship between husband and wife.

In a family, there must be complete trust between husband and wife. Like an open book, both spouses should always be ready to reveal their mutual feelings. Neither should do anything that may intimately arise shame or the need to conceal. Secretiveness, hiding of faults or lying in order to maintain appearances are very detrimental to character, besides hindering spiritual evolution. Family life is much happier when each spouse strives to deserve the full confidence and moral support of the other. Infidelity and adultery, besides hurting decency, leave an indelible spiritual stain on the conduct planned for an incarnation. Honest thought and will power are powerful weapons to be wielded in the fight against the thrusts of the spirits of the inferior astral, which try to encircle human beings in the harmful animistic matter of their currents as soon as they perceive an affinitive feeling bent towards infidelity.

Man and woman as part of a family, act as mutual complements. The spirit (soul) of each individual is linked to the entire physical body by animistic cords and relies on them to make possible the balance of organic functions. Similarly, spiritual action unfolds in the formation of the family, assigning to men and women different tasks more related to their masculine and feminine tendencies. Men and women should never be concerned about the value of their contributions as these are measured by different standards. Consequently, it is also impossible to establish a fair comparison between male and female production because a fundamental unit is lacking. Hence, the duties of men and the duties of women, although equal in value, cannot be reversed. Doing so would infringe natural laws and cause a corresponding imbalance. Therefore, each spouse should endeavour to perform his or her tasks well. If they stand united, they will carry out their arduous and dignifying assignment. If they grow spiritually apart, they will sow the seeds of discord and disagreement and their work will be left unaccomplished.

Family and children.

Unfortunately, in our day and age not all men and women are prepared to raise their children in a manner that meets the demands of spiritual and material life. People who are truly worthy of the name of parents are not those who limit themselves to irresponsible procreation. Real parents are those who measure and weight their matrimonial responsibilities and prepare themselves to conscientiously fulfil the duties of parenthood. Procreation per se is merely instinctive considering the general source of animal life. However, in regard to human beings and the proper formation of an healthy family environment, procreation is a serious and relevant matter.

As a rule, children are the image of their parents. With the immense power of assimilation they have in childhood, they try to imitate what they see adults do and this is indelibly recorded in their subconscious. Therefore, it is impossible to dissociate the home from school. After all, the home and the family itself, is above all a school (a good or bad one) where parents, who can also be considered teachers, are continuously giving their children lessons and examples of discipline or indiscipline, virtue or vice, work or idleness, honesty or dishonesty, courage or cowardice, truth or falsity, dignity or abasement, order or disorder, shame or shamelessness, loyalty or treason, sincerity or hypocrisy.

Upbringing begins in the cradle. A few days after birth, children already display inclinations and tendencies which need stimulation when good and uncompromising discouragement when unreasonable and inconvenient. The responsibilities of a couple, during their children's childhood are enormous. In addition to constant watchfulness, they demand from both husband and wife, for the sake of their children's upbringing, all the courage, sacrifice and self-denial they are capable of offering. Giving their children a good upbringing should come first on the parents' list of priorities and should never be neglected.

Children should learn to trust their parents. This will enable parents to guide, enlighten and help their children so that they can learn to find solutions to their problems. However, this trust will cease to exist if parents lack morality, decency, moderation, common sense, self-respect, consistency and exemplary conduct. In other words, if they do not do as they want their children to do. A good family unity cannot exist without parents helping their children to develop their good qualities and discourage their imperfections.

One of the most important points in the Synthesis Of Rationalistic Principles is:

To devote one's full energies to the safety and stability of the household.

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